Today my special girl had a paediatric appointment for a Griffiths developmental assessment which, like many of these previous assessments, will probably show that she is 2-3 years behind her peers. Today my niece had a bone scan to assess a femur fracture that has been caused by bone weakening after treatment for cancer in her spine. Today my nearly father in law had a consultant appointment to discuss the potentially cancerous growth on his face.
Yesterday I saw a healthy, attractive looking, middle aged woman out walking with her husband, crumple on to the pavement holding her face and sobbing.
Tomorrow any of us might pop into a shop or cafe or do the school run. We might be distracted, appear rude or distant or maybe we’re laughing and joking, full of beans. We might forget to ask you how you are or might not notice your new haircut. Maybe we will be a little brusque or rush past without stopping for a chat. Perhaps we’ll be a bit later than planned in replying to your email, Facebook post or text. Please cut us some slack.
There are people everywhere coping with things we can’t comprehend or appreciate. People suffering private traumas and personal tragedies. There are stresses and strains, anxieties and pressures, disappointments and illnesses.
A long time ago I was at a team building day and we were all asked to draw a personal shield with a motto for our life. My motto was “do as you would be done by” thinking back to the character in Charles Kingsley’s ‘The Water Babies’. I’m not religious but I like to think that this sums up beautifully the 10 commandments and seems to be a pretty good way to live your life. So…
- Smile at people.
- Hold doors open.
- Let people with two items go in front of you at the supermarket.
- Drive less aggressively.
- Be patient.
- Compliment people.
- Be tolerant.
- Don’t stare.
- Be approachable.
- Care just a little bit more about others than yourself.
- Don’t rush.
- Be calm.
- Ask questions.
- Don’t expect answers.
Today’s earworm: ‘You don’t really know me’ – Arman van Helden
Last night’s different dinner score: 1! (expanded ploughmans/antipasto..a hit!)